What is Emotional Fitness? - Sarah Coleman
We talk so much in society about physical fitness and the importance it plays in our health, our joy, and our longevity. Have you ever thought about the flip side of fitness - YOUR emotional fitness? Emotional fitness is defined as the state wherein the mind is capable of staying away from negative thoughts and can focus on creative and positive tasks. Being emotionally fit is the key to success in many aspects of life. But, don’t forget to do your burpees.
A few examples of emotional fitness might be the emotional flexibility to handle a difficult conversation, protect yourself or a loved one, and/or being kind to someone in need with an appropriate response. This could also be the ability to be compassionate with a child who needs empathy, to be patient under pressure, and/or be sympathetic to your spouse.
Here are a few things to reflect on as we enter this new year – full of opportunity, new choices, and adventure. The following 7 topics are a great place to assess your emotional fitness and what role it plays in your life. Have fun exploring these, possibly, different ideas.
Self-awareness - Self-awareness is the ability to understand your emotional triggers and biases. Start a journal and keep track of what is coming up for you.
Empathy - Empathy is the ability to understand the emotions, needs, and perspectives of others. Try listening, really listening, when someone speaks. Don’t be shy to ask questions to gain understanding.
Mindfulness - Mindfulness is the ongoing process of becoming more comfortable being uncomfortable. Did someone say burpees? Next time you face a difficult conversation, take a deep breath and try to stay open by not getting defensive.
Curiosity - Curiosity is the ability to pursue growth over defensiveness. How about asking this question - what can I do differently next time? Try to learn and grow from each situation.
Play - Play is the ability to foster a safe space of connection, creativity, and yes, maybe even FUN. Next time you are with a group of people, perhaps a meeting, try an ice breaker or silly contest to let your guard down a little – it will allow others to do the same.
Resilience - Resilience is the ability to persevere and bounce back from failure and/or setbacks. What if you kept a YAY file – all the positive things people have said about you or personal successes? Glance at it when you need it most. And, remember how great you are - you are enough!
Communication - Communication is the ability to put words to needs, boundaries, and expectations. Next time you are in conflict with someone, try switching spots and see if you can see it from their point of view.
Pick one of these areas to explore and see how your joy, your productivity, and your stress change. You might just find yourself stronger than ever.